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Saturday, September 10, 2005

unwanted !!

Few days back I called my mom and she told me one of my cousin sister aborted her baby. I was happy because it was her 4th baby, but later she (my mom) told me, she aborted her baby because it was a baby girl as she wanted a boy this time. She is a well educated girl and right now working as a professor in a college .I was really shocked at her decision. She aborted the baby not because it was 4th baby but because it was a baby girl. How can some 1 do that?

Well I don’t protest these actions if its done for the good of both mother and child.But there are some underlying reasons which are somewhat sensible. The Indian culture instills a preference for male children. Sons will carry the family name when they marry, will be handed on the family property, and will care for their parents in their old age.Traditionally, the son’s wife moves into his family’s home, and their family grows in the same house. The father of the bride must also pay a dowry on the occasion of her wedding, so a daughter is considered a bit of a financial burden. Consider this in combine with the fact that female-selected abortion. It is easy to see that a dowry is quite a large consideration. Girls in one way are creation of a financial burden for parents in india
While growing up, children might encounter this phase of their culture. This encounter could have dangerous effects on a growing girl’s self-esteem and self-worth. Children are precious. They should be considered a gift,no child deserves to be put in a position where
they feel inferior to anyone or anything.Boy or girl, both should be treated equal.
dont kill me momma i am your baby doll
-----st000nie----

31 Comments:

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    By Blogger strawy, at 9/10/2005 11:26:00 AM  

  • Being unwanted is not the fault of the baby, it is the parent's fault for not wanting it. And just because something is part of a person's culture does not mean it is right. Is a wife jumping on her husband's funeral pyre right?

    By Blogger Lone Ranger, at 9/10/2005 11:31:00 AM  

  • lone ranger : i agree with u dude,but sometine our culture n tradition play a major role in acts like this , even sati-system was a part of our culture ,i dont think any gal wanted to burn herself alive ,life is so precious, y wud 1 waste it like that , but still it was practised in India .. just becouse of our culture n tradition .. right ?

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/10/2005 11:45:00 AM  

  • hey lil sis.... nice one here... i for one m totally against abortion... darn so wat if it was her fourth?... she should have taken precautions earlier!!!

    n abt the baby being a girl... uffff i dont know wat century people r living in!!!!

    By Blogger messys musings, at 9/10/2005 01:02:00 PM  

  • m00nie : shez on of the craziest girl on the earth ,and even her in-laws are no lesser , just a bunch of educated-illitrates they r, wat else i can say dii ... i dont protest abortion if its done for good , but in this case i was really hurt..
    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/10/2005 01:13:00 PM  

  • gosh it ws sick i thought this practice ws abondoned in stone age but seems its not,this shows tht literate v mayb but educated v r not...disgusting..i was the 3rd daughter of my parents though 1 died whn she ws only 2 ,and the nurse who told papa abt me delivered the news in a v serious tone and said im sorry u have gt another daughter,,,and s per my father ..tht he wanted 2 slap her fr such sick way of delivering the news..i know wht a pampered 1 i m ..and how my father always give me more importance thn my bros..im so thankful 2 GOD tht im nt 1 of those abondoned once...
    v sensetive topic sonu..and v beautiful way 2 write abt it
    tc

    By Blogger sebia, at 9/10/2005 03:15:00 PM  

  • Strawy baby that first comment is for whom ???
    Babezzz Chillax...
    I told u na... no point reacting to some hopeless creatures...

    So here u go... with prev 3 very light posts...u've hit a very sensitive matter...

    Good1 dear :-)>
    I remember readin a similar kind of post at Keshu's blog...
    I knw its really sick...
    these things make me think as to in which century are we living?
    These guys really need to be EDUCATED... and by education I donot mean the school/college kind of educaton...
    the whole thinking has to change...

    Girls in one way are creation of a financial burden for parents in india
    this is pure bullshit for me...
    I want my first child to be a girl... and I'm gonna pamper her and spoil her like anything...
    hehehehhehe... she is gonna be my sweetheart ;-)

    Take care babez
    Cheers

    By Blogger PuNeEt, at 9/10/2005 04:58:00 PM  

  • Its a shame tht a large number of ppl indulge in this, infact the doctors have been banned by law not to reveal the sex of the child when ppl come for ultrasound, but unfortunatley its still done. They even inolve the gods instead of now saying that its a boy or a gal they greet parents (if its male child) Jai Shri Krishna n if its a female child Lakhsmi Mai ki Jai ho. It will continue to take place unless the government can effectively ban the dowry rubbish, as this dowry business to a large extent contributes to this. Education, make the place safer for gals, instilling in them confidence to go out n work all these could play a crucial role in putting this barbaric practice to an end. Imagine a country without any females....imagine a world without lovely ppl like sonu arnd .....

    By Blogger Jackal, at 9/10/2005 08:46:00 PM  

  • ppl aborting babies juz for the sake of their gender are absolutely disgusting
    They should be prosecuted
    What if these ppl were aborted in their childhood huh
    Everyone gets a life to enjoy and there isnt any entity which can forcefully take it away and noone has the right to do that

    I myself prefer that i would like to have a baby gal!
    I thought these acts were no longer taken into consideration But Ppl do prove u wrong

    DISGUSTING

    By Blogger Vipul, at 9/10/2005 09:07:00 PM  

  • awww..all these ill-treatments towards females making me awfully sick..

    this is forth article i am reading on subject like this within a short span of 3 days..

    i am exhausted trying to figure out the reason for this kind of bizarre attitude of some people..i feel even worse when it happened within a community which worship Goddess, but stepping on feelings of human in general, and women in specific..

    i adore baby girls..i even wished to have all of my children to be girls (if i happen to have children)..i was brought up in a family/community which doesn't differentiate a baby girl from a baby boy..i am proud of this, and this is what i am bringing with me, this is what i am going to teach my children as well..

    =am000nie=

    By Blogger tulipspeaks, at 9/11/2005 08:59:00 AM  

  • Amutha told me to think before write... "Before you write, Think.. "
    so I'm now thinking.....

    BTW : Great Post ... :)

    By Blogger saurav, at 9/12/2005 03:17:00 AM  

  • Very interesting topic st000nie...

    U know the anonymous 'male' who leaves nasty comments in 'female' blogs...he's living proof that a female baby would have done better in place of his dumb existence. lol!


    st000nie I have heard this happening in India...not in Sri Lanka tho - girls and boys r both welcome happily in to the family. But I thought this happened in ancient India...how come it's happening in ur cousin's family and ur telling me she's educated...I'm sorry to say this st000nie but thats not a very civilised thing to do - did u speak to her? U should tell her that such old traditions will imprison them forever from learning what life truly means...u have to break this wrong perception and set them free from prejudice...ask her what it would have been like if her mum decided to abort her back then - would she have seen the face of this Earth and be what she is today? Tell her this if u can and stop this senseless abortion...

    Keshi.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 9/12/2005 03:21:00 AM  

  • Amutha told me to think before write..

    lolz..av000nie

    By Blogger tulipspeaks, at 9/12/2005 04:38:00 AM  

  • Sonogrpahy - to predict sex of an unborn child is banned in India....or is it?

    Its easy to ban tools to predict the sex, but can mentality of people be erased?? No matter hwo educacted they are...

    Naaah...

    Its sick to hear such news of abortion only coz it was a baby gal :(

    By Blogger Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr, at 9/12/2005 06:40:00 AM  

  • hey shonu monu...
    sweety actully honestly speaking im kinda shocked.Abortion,if needed is fine,but y coz shez a baby gurl?I thought these practises were old n din take place anymore.It's one thing to say that shez abortin d child coz of financial problems,or because she doesnt have the right kind of time,or shes tooo old or dat sort of a thing,but killing a baby jus coz she is a gurl is ridiculous.Im sorry if im being too harsh here,but seriously she shouldnt have done it coz of d gender.Abortion,in my opinion(if not reallly needed) is already pathetic enuff,but if its coz its a gurl,is even more disgusting.

    By Blogger --pearl--, at 9/12/2005 07:50:00 AM  

  • misty : true re , when i was a kid my granny use to tell us stories about how ppl use to burry baby gals alive ... how disgusting na, and nowdays its same, the difference it that they abort them be4 birth.. hugs mistu

    Sebs : to some extent we r still living in stone age , even educated ppl like my cousing sister can do such uncivilised acts.

    puneet : thnx dude .. .gal or boy , both shud be treated same na.

    "I want my first child to be a girl... and I'm gonna pamper her and spoil her like anything..."

    thats really sweet of u , cant u just adopt me puneet ? kidding , but galz r really adorable.

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 03:08:00 PM  

  • tanzu : chill down babe , i understand wat u mean and i agree with u babe , but here a baby is aborted coz of the gender and not becouse she dont want to have more babies ... muahhh sweety ... u r always welcome to comment , love ya ...muahhhh

    jackal : so true , even ppl from medical field is involved in this crime , its banned to reveal sex , still it happnes , so the whole system is corrupted , v cant blame a single person ... thnx dude .. hugs

    wand000nie : not every 1 does that , read sebs comment , i bow to her parents , wonderful parents she got .

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 03:19:00 PM  

  • icy : chill down icy , its not her , its our cuture n tradition n her in-laws, no matter how much a gal is educated , but still there are some dominating families and galz just cant do anything na .. n my this siter , shez one damn good soul re ... hate her anyways ...

    am000nie : amu nice family / community u have sweety , st000nie bows to ur community ,
    even i wanna adopt a baby gal a raise her up and make her very strong ... hugss babez

    navi :
    "a son is a son untill he gets himself a wife...but a daughter is a daughter all her life.."
    excatly , this is all every 1 has to understand ... nice 1 sweety, hugss


    sapzy :" the mole gal" .... u will get a baby gal for sure , but like u ...she will be like me ..winkzzz


    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 03:58:00 PM  

  • oopppsss need to pick my nephew , rest laterzzz ,,,, hugss alll

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 04:03:00 PM  

  • avik : doing good work , carry on dude.lolzz

    keshu : here comes the babe... keshu i was lill upset again coz some jerk tried to harass me again ... i think i m a bit to sensitive ,it will take some time but m not gonna bother bout them anymore.
    this time he was teaching me grammer n english vocab ... no 1 come perfect from mom womb na , v learn from our mistakes ... huh ... but mez fine now n ready with my new post, will post it soon ... liked ur comment sweety , ppl in Sri Lanka r really nice, i wish i was also born there...hugss sweety , thnx , love ya

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 08:20:00 PM  

  • z000nie : its banned but still there r some clinics (private )where it is still done , n so true dude its easy to bann tools but not mentality, hugss z000nie , miss talking to u re

    pearlu :well sweety , there are many reasons behind it ... but i dont think so any mom will kill her baby willingly , there must be some reason na , hugsss sweety.

    adorable : "the real one" lolzzz ... nice sher , mujeh lagta hai ki mujeh samajh aagya hai ... heheehe.hugss ado , thnx

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/12/2005 10:05:00 PM  

  • Ya...it's really sad to know what ur cousin did.

    But sometimes there are such situations when u can't help but abort the child.

    By Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ, at 9/12/2005 11:25:00 PM  

  • st000nie this anonymous loser is a big fat dumbo...he doesnt know any English at all. His spelling and grammar have gone on a permanent holiday - me and n000nie noted it long time ago. So let him just have the only fun he can ever have in life - that is wear a mask, blog hop and crap everywhere. Just forget this pathetic leech.

    Keshi.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 9/13/2005 01:48:00 AM  

  • hi babezzz
    how r u

    both shud be treated same na
    I'll not treat both equal...
    I'll be partial to my babby doll
    ;-)
    hehehehe

    By adopting u... u r closing my other alternatives ;-)
    hahahhahahaha
    chill down... kidding

    Cheers

    By Blogger PuNeEt, at 9/13/2005 07:52:00 AM  

  • omgg Puneet!!

    st000nie lol u can have Puneet alrite...

    k000kie.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 9/13/2005 08:05:00 AM  

  • aawwwwww keshu , read am00nies post ,
    " think be4 u type , "

    nooooooooooo nooooooooooooo hez all urs baby ,muahhhh keshuuu , lolzz , n about that jerk , i really dont care bout him now ... hugssss, love ya sweety

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/13/2005 08:18:00 AM  

  • cheesy : muahh cheesyy ,yupz baby u r right , hugsss sweety .

    puneet : "st000nie gives a devilish look to p000"
    other alternatives ?? heheheh , chup !!! lolzzz

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/13/2005 08:23:00 AM  

  • Gosh U girlzz alwayz get me wrong...
    By other alternatives...
    I meant a very sweet... n special friends...
    who can pamper me at times ;-)
    cheers

    Keshu... I cant do this to u
    :-)>

    By Blogger PuNeEt, at 9/13/2005 09:28:00 AM  

  • hmmm....

    Nice one Strawy...

    Infanticide for me is a punishable offence. Its the same as commiting a murder. How can some pathetic women just give a lame ass excuse for aborting babies on the pretext of women's rights???? Why cant they take precautions in the first place??? Its wrong both ways, even if we take it as a case of being a female baby or just because a couple does not want the child or a woman thinks that it might ruin her asthetics... The only exception should be that if a lady is a rape/harrasment victim and she concieves then she should be allowed to abort the baby. Otherwise we humans have no rights to decide who lives and who does not. These were my thougts and I am sorry if I hurt anyone by this statement.

    And one more thing Strawy, when you say "All men are BASTARDS", whom all do you include in that?? Not all people are alike and that goes for both the sexes. So the discrimintaion should not be there on the basis of personal experiences. One should have a broader perspective of life and see things from the positive too.



    Peace,
    Firacub.

    By Blogger firacub, at 9/13/2005 11:00:00 AM  

  • fira ,m sorry for that comment , have deleted it , that was not meant to harass u guys , anyways u r right i shudnt discriminate every for my personal experiences , thnx fira ... n i m sorry again ...

    st000nie

    By Blogger strawy, at 9/13/2005 12:20:00 PM  

  • lol fira n st000nie...ok why did u delete that comment st000nie babes? dun delete anything just becos someone feels bad abt it...stand up for what u believe, hai na Fira?

    Keshi.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 9/14/2005 04:01:00 AM  

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